Sometimes it seems, we Africans are our own enemies when we are so many miles away from home.
We seem not to trust one another, and as a result, we decide to keep to ourselves, because we don’t want the others to know what we are going through.
The mentality rings on, “after all they wont help me out of my situation. If they know what I go through, they will gossip behind my back.” Many will have this attitude and stay away from those who actually wold have given them a hand!
There is always hope that this attitude will change someday for our own good. Why do we worry so much about small matters like – who is dressing how, who is driving what, who owns what, and the like, when we have bigger problems to address that can uplift our lives.
We need to be honest with ourselves, and to others, if we want to fit in our communities. Nobody will take us seriously, if we are not active members in partnership with others, and ready to learn what is going on around us.
Decisions will be made without putting our interests first. If you are living in a European country permanently, and you don’t participate in social or political issues around you, then you have a long way to go.
Those who have been, for example in Finland, for a short period of time exercise distrust towards those who have been in the country for many years.
They will just say “she/he is a permanent resident, she doesn’t give a damn about any one else.” And in reality that is not the case! The best one can do, is simply ask one another for guidance, assistance, and do the best to get along, instead of suffering alone, and allowing suspicion to dictate our everyday life!
Let us hope we can accept the fact that we are far from our families, and friends back in Africa and also be ready to make new friends around us.
We cannot ignore the fact that when one has moved to a new country, the purpose is to succeed in life. And yet we seem to forget, that it is not easy to achieve that success, if we do not focus on positive things around our current communities, and be of good use in the society.
Tuning yourself to ask, “do I do the things I do? Could I do better for myself and my community?
We may not be able to save the world, but as the saying goes, with your participation this world can be made, “a better place for you and me”, just by doing something positive everyday.
By Esther – Finland, For African Press in Norway, APN